Quality relationships are protected by honoring the Must Haves and Must NOT Haves of the other person.
If you had to create the perfect list for “Spouse Must Haves and Must Not Haves” what would be on your list?
Here’s what a respected and popular pastor suggests:
- Spiritual Unity
- Life Purpose Compatibility
- Is Generous and Kind
MUST NOT HAVES
- No Uncontrollable Anger
- No Addictions (to anything)
- No Bitterness
- No Selfishness
- No Greed
Now that you have a list for choosing the right spouse, which of these Must Haves and Must Not Haves do you need to address (within yourself)?
This exercise also applies to the “married folks” who didn’t get this list before saying I Do.
You’re not off the hook.
Because you have a responsibility to model what quality marriage looks like.
Make it look attractive, rewarding and blissful (in spite of the work you must do on yourself daily to remain “the right fit” as a partner, lover and friend).