Step 01: Recognize The Call To ALTER Reality
Recognize WHAT You Already Bring (In Terms of Value).
There are tremendous benefits for others who gain access to your Expertise and Generosity.
The problem is, some people show up with no intent to compensate YOU for making some aspect of their life look better, feel better and/or flow better.
They categorize and treat YOU as a resource; not as a professional (because you’ve shown up in their life as a resource instead of a professional).
STOP giving away your expertise as if it were FREE for YOU to acquire it.
It’s the furthest thing from the truth and YOU know it, so enough of that!!!
From this day forward, give yourself permission to START sharing your expertise with customers and clients.
Then systematically depart from consumers — people who take from YOU without giving back, as well as those who manipulate YOU through an area where you’ve not established boundaries to protect your mind and emotions.
This includes saying NO to people on your job, who request your expertise for personal reasons outside of work. Once the conversation ventures outside of work, they only have access if they’ve also decided to become a customer or client (which means they compensate YOU for delivering a satisfactory solution).
Recognize WHO You Already Are (A Person With Sphere-Specific Dominion).
Not all expertise is equal.
Just because YOU can do something well doesn’t mean YOU should do it in your professional arena.
This begins with YOU adopting a new definition for WORK.
New Definition: WORK is a relationship between all of YOU and some problem.
Relationship requires a Quality Exchange for it to fulfill, motivate and adequately compensate YOU.
YOU get something YOU want from that work, every time YOU invest your expertise with a particular kind of person (and the problem they’ve brought to YOU to help them solve).
Access is not title-granted (i.e. family, friend, spouse, lover, customer, co-worker), but made available to customers or clients.
Customers are transactional relationships (where the solution is delivered for the required fee).
Clients not only compensate YOU for the solution, but also collaborate and invest in YOU, to expand your Value.
With expanded Value, YOU can help them solve more complex issues (which also increases your ongoing compensation).
The key is doing work in the right domain or sphere of influence (for which there are 7).
- Arts and Entertainment
- Business
- Education
- Family
- Government
- Media
- Religion
YOU have God-given dominion in 1 of these 7.
Take time and study the 7 spheres of influence.
Eliminate the ones YOU know are not a good fit for YOU.
Consider the remaining through the lens of where YOU have not only superior ability, but access to intuitive wisdom.
Next, apply IKIGAI to find your Diamond Mind… ability which brings significant impact, value and change-agency.
Recognize WHY You Can’t Wait Any Longer To Take Action.
Time is money once you’ve established your Value.
For instance, imagine that your plan is to allocate 20 hours of your 168-hour week to investing in others.
Your Time Allocation Strategy might be implemented like this…
Recognize WHERE You Can Make An Impact Today.
This leaves YOU 148 hours (168 minus 20) for time at work, time with family, time with friends and time with self.
From the 148 hours, let’s subtract 56 hours (7 days x 8 hours per day) for sleep, rest and rejuvenation.
This leaves YOU 92 unallocated hours.
Next, subtract 50 hours for work and commute, leaving YOU 42 unallocated hours.
Use a portion of these 42 hours to develop and share your Diamond Mind.
Recognize WHEN You Should Let Old Ideas and Comforts Die.
These 42 hours are your golden opportunity to reFRAME Your Value.
If you gave yourself just 1 hour per day to reFRAME Your Value, you still have 35 unallocated hours for family, friends. and self.
My point is… TIME is not your problem.
How you’ve allocated your time, through the inability to say NO to the wrong things and wrong people, is your core issue.
And I’m here to help YOU fix this.
Everything YOU do to reFRAME Your Value, has the potential to make YOU more Attractive, Assertive and Productive.
These 3 forms of what I call BIG Deal Energy (Masterfully Productive, Creatively Powerful and Insightfully Persuasive) can cultivate in YOU the magnetism for attracting the best opportunities, relationships and rewards (given your expertise and sphere of influence).
But first YOU must break the curse.
Recognize HOW You Might Benefit From Enrolling In The PROGRAM: Alter Your Reality.
Next comes the work YOU must do on yourself to break the curse of Do For Others At Your Own Expense.
This is important…
Every “thing” you’ve experienced (good and bad) from people who you’ve served and received nothing in return, is your responsibility to correct.
You’re not going to waste time and energy blaming others for what you’ve experience.
You’re also not going to let paranoia and fear cause YOU to cut off your gift from others.
We need YOU.
Instead, YOU will simply start taking responsibility for what happens going forward (starting with these 2 questions).
Q1: With everything that YOU know and all the abilities that you’ve cultivated over many years, how can YOU STOP yourself from taking on too much of the wrong stuff from the wrong people?
Q2: How can you create the discipline or mantra of relationship before resource to ensure your investments in others is rewarding for YOU too? YOU may not be able to answer these questions yet.
Here’s some a brief lesson on social heredity to get your wheel turning in the right direction.
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